A Huge Mistake Guys Make When They Approach Women

Let's talk about a huge mistake that guys make when they approach women.

And once you understand it, the process of approaching women becomes
much easier.

Communications

The big mistake is: "Focusing on the wrong thing".

A Huge Mistake Guys Make When They Approach Women

A lot of guys who struggle with approaching women, do so because they have false assumptions of what it takes to be successful.

For example, they end up believing that you have to say the right words in order to impress her.

Although, that is true to some degree, it creates a major problem when guys make that their goal.

It's an impossible goal that naturally leads to a cycle of endless questions.

For example:

"Does she think I'm attractive?"
"Should I say this?"
"What if it doesn't work?"
"Should I have said that?"
"OK I said it. I wonder how she took it?"
"Should I have waited to say it?"
"Did my body language affect what I just said?"

Then it gets worse.

It forces the guy to project a bunch of undesirable signals. It's almost as if the guy is shouting: "I'm trying really hard to impress you".

Books about "pick up lines" keep this type of thinking alive, because it supports the idea that if you say the right things, you'll get the girl.

There is another line of thinking that takes place.

And even though it's a more intelligent approach, it still creates problems.

It's the idea that "if you have an understanding of female psychology", you'll get the girl.

That's partially true, but it doesn't correct the bigger issue, which is having the "right focus".

If a guy wants to rapidly improve at approaching women, then he should focus on evaluating her.

That should be the focus.

Every interaction with a new girl should start with an evaluation phase.

This goes against what guys naturally want to do. By nature, men are visually stimulated, that's why 95% of porn is purchased by men. On the other hand, women are mentally stimulated, that's why 95% of romance novels are purchased by women.

So when many guy see an attractive woman (visual observation), they start thinking "How can I get her to like me", when the more effective approach is to evaluate her.

And subtly communicate that you are "evaluating her" so that she gets a sense that you haven't already made up your mind that you want her.

When a guy makes "evaluating" his focus, it's not likely to send undesirable signals that say: "I'm trying really hard to impress you".

Instead, he triggers something inside her that makes her want to fight for his approval, assuming that he does everything else right.

He subtly communicates that he is a valuable guy interested in a valuable woman.

He also indirectly communicates that an attractive woman isn't enough to win his approval. So it takes much more for her to demonstrate that she is quality woman.

Take the time right now to write down 5 - 7 questions that would make a woman get the impression that you are trying to evaluate her.

As a tip, make sure it's subtle and playful.

For example:
"Are you telling me you are actually the type of woman who would blah blah blah?"
"I didn't think you were the type of woman who would do something like that?"
"So what would your friends say is your best quality?"

When a guy operates with the "am I saying the right thing" model, he's already lost.

If he operates with the "is she right for me" model, it's a totally different ball game.

A Huge Mistake Guys Make When They Approach Women

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